If we compare the process of divorce in a biological family and a foster family, we will not find any differences: in both cases, it is accompanied by quarrels, suffering, court proceedings, searching for new housing, etc.
Even the mediation process remains the same: individual informational and assessment meetings, joint meetings throughout the mediation procedure, discussion of the same issues, etc. However, there is a significant difference in how the members of the foster family—foster parents and аdopted—experience the divorce period.
Every child suffers when their biological parents, Mom and Dad, no longer love each other, decide to separate, and no longer live together, no matter how much they might want them to stay together. The child has to go through the entire process of personal grief and fight the pain of the divorce, while having support from both sides.
For a аdopted, it's different, more complicated. Divorce for them is yet another challenge, suffering that intensifies, and all this pain is inflicted by adults, once again, whom the child should have trusted.
The mediator knows that аdopted often carry a significant amount of life experience that has left scars. They frequently struggle with low self-esteem, bitterness, anxiety, fear… they are children with a sense of guilt in any situation, even in the divorce of their foster parents.
